Humble in 2016

Thank you for coming to visit! I have to admit, I don't write much on this page. My "regular" blog is http://tammysincerity.BlogSpot.com


I also post once a month over at http://BraveGirlCommunity.com

Still, I wanted to take a little bit of time here to share.
Last night I was reading Psalm 25. God was highlighting some words for me and the word humble was in the middle of the passage. That was no accident.

Remember, O Lord, your compassion and unfailing love,
    which you have shown from long ages past.
⁷ Do not remember the rebellious sins of my youth.
    Remember me in the light of your unfailing love,
    for you are merciful, O Lord.

⁸ The Lord is good and does what is right;
    he shows the proper path to those who go astray.
⁹ He leads the humble in doing right,
    teaching them his way.
¹⁰ The Lord leads with unfailing love and faithfulness    all who keep his covenant and obey his demands. (Psalm 25:6-10 NLT)

I don't know if you ever read Charlotte's Web by E.B. White or if you saw the film. Either version retained the spider's words in the web that described Wilbur the Pig.
What I recall, though, is that one of them was Humble.

Humility is not a popular trait. It seems to be a behind-the-scenes, shy type of virtue. As I study it, though, a great deal of strength and character is required for consistent humility. You have to be sure enough of your value and worth to not need the credit or the glory for things you are responsible for.

For God to be glorified, we must be humble enough to not desire any of that glory for ourselves.
We never want to be Elisha's servant. He went after the men with the reward and lied, saying his master did indeed want some of the gifts. Then he lied again to cover his deeds. He was punished with the same condition (leprosy) of the man who had been healed.

We wrestle against pride. This is why, I believe, it says in Ephesians 6 that we wrestle not against flesh and blood. It's deeper. It's in our minds and in the spiritual realm. Satan wants us to have ANYONE or ANYTHING on the throne except for the Lord GOD Almighty. He has no preference if it's us, a celebrity, a possession, a "goal" we're striving for, or even all the "good works" we're hoping to accomplish.

Journeying toward a place of humility comes with a lot of breaking, but the result will be glorious.

:)

~Tammy

2015: A Year of Joy

When I realized that 2014 had culminated in success, and that I finally trusted God? I was overJOYed!

And, as I look back on 2015, Joy was such a fitting word. Not because everything was perfect, but because my God was and is perfect and He doesn't need me to be perfect. I even won a book called "Breaking Up With Perfect" from Amy Carroll!! I learned so much about Grace. That was my second word for the year, really. It still is. Grace is AMAZING! If you didn't get to read my post about it, here's a link on OneWord365. And here's the second one on grace.




My joy comes from the place of security inside knowing that I'm redeemed. That God's grace came to Earth (not on December 25, but that doesn't negate His coming) one time, lived for 33 years here, then died and rose again. And with His rising came the glorious hope that was foretold ever since the first time sin entered the world.

JOY to the World, the Lord has come.
Let Earth receive her King.
Let every heart prepare Him room.
And Heaven and Nature sing, and Heaven and Nature sing, and Heaven, and Heaven and Nature sing!

I weekly blog over at tammysincerity.blogspot.com and participate in the Five Minute Friday linkup over at katemotaung.com because it's the most wonderful community!
One of our prompts this year was JOY. Here's that post.

Thank you for joining me on my journey.

As I nudge the passing of time into another year, my new word is HUMBLE. And it's a word that God's been leading me to for a while. I've already had to learn some big lessons. It seems that the fall is always my trying season, and my place of great growth. This year was no different. I've been broken and humbled and He's not done, but it's making me such a better representative of Him!

That's all for now!
Love,
Tammy

Free From Pursuing Perfection (One Word Guest Post)

So honored again to share over at OneWord365 for the month of April. I forgot to re-post here.

So, here's the beginning, and then there's a link to finish over at the One Word blog. :)

~Tammy

It’s been a long and fruitless pursuit, but I’m finally getting free. Oh how wonderful it is to live a life without an impossible standard!
Often I feel like I’m the only one. The only person in the world who believes that perfection is attainable. I see every magazine and every internet photo and believe that these women have flawless skin. I have heard of Adobe Photoshop, but some part of me thinks that there are real people out there that look like these manipulated images. I then see everything I have that they don’t (or has been airbrushed away).
As a pre-teen, I experienced acne in all its glory. It became the only thing I saw when I looked at the mirror. It probably wasn’t as prominent as I believed, but I was very self-conscious. That was the real problem. Self. My focus was entirely on myself. Now, most pre-teens will struggle with self-consciousness—it’s a normal part of human development. In my thirties, however, I’m being set free. I’ve been given the secret!
Would you like to hear it? Are you tired of the up-and-down diet, beauty routine, next “new” thing that makes you feel great and then you fail? How many times are we searching for the wrong kind of success?

Click here to jump over to the OneWord365.com/blog site! (and read the rest)

Giving Up My Right to Grump (Choosing Joy)

Have you ever been disappointed by something?

Do you feel justified in your grumpiness, that "funk" that you find yourself in?

For a moment, you should allow the feeling, as it is real, but please please don't stay there.

I found myself fighting a few disappointments in a row and the temptation to stay there was real. God, though, through His Spirit, was gently speaking to me at each turn of events, each silent moment.

The cancelled babysitter, the unanswered phone call, the unanswered text, and then an hour later another set of unanswered calls and texts, and another hour later? Again.

What is it about knowing somebody could communicate with us that creates such angst when we don't get a hold of them?

"You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!" (NLT)
"You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you." (NIV)

Isaiah 26:3 is such a good tool to combat this crazy, frantic feeling that starts to come up from within!!

I need to trust in God. Not in my phone, not in another person's phone. I need to fix my thoughts on God and what is really important, not the wild musings of my imagination that jump to conclusions on a whim.

Pretty soon, if you fixate on "why haven't they responded", you will be in a stinky, smelly "funk".
Don't let it happen. Get up, get on with it and just trust that you'll eventually hear back.

Maybe, like in my case, "all circuits are busy".

That's right. I tried calling, and nothing worked. Except the voicemail. When the missed calls and texts were discovered? "All circuits are busy."

Thankfully, we have a landline for backup and I received a call.

By that point, I had calmed down, and had received some of that precious "peace that passes all understanding." (Philippians 4:7)

When we make a chOICE to REspond with Joy, we "RE-J-OICE". We make a "joy" choice.

This is a step in the journey to heaven that is well worth taking. Whether yours is a baby step or a giant leap, be encouraged to step!

~Tammy

Speaking From The Heart (Guest Post)

Today, my post is featured on One Word 365. Here's an excerpt and then a link to finish over at their page. So thankful to be sharing what God is teaching me in order that others may be edified and encouraged!
The words always come from Him and just flow through my fingertips. It's never something I'm able to do on my own!

In February, the image of a heart is frequently before our eyes as a symbol of love. When it comes to hearts, God is a multiplier. Whatever is in our heart, He will multiply for His use and His glory.

In Luke 6:45, Jesus said, “A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.” (NIV)
A heart full of love will be multiplied, and love will abound. A heart full of hurt will be multiplied, and hurt will abound. The words we speak come directly from our hearts. What are we offering up to be multiplied and served to others?
When Jesus asked his disciples to collect food for the crowd of 5,000 men (plus women and children), Andrew said to him, “Here is a boy with five small barley loaves and two small fish, but how far will they go among so many?” (John 6:9 NIV)
Many of us have a small offering, but God is the multiplier of all and can feed many with what we have. If you are filled with joy, He will share that joy to people you never knew needed it. If you are filled with love, He will cause you to share love with those thought unlovable. If you are filled with negativity or bitterness, your bread is moldy and your fishes smell like fish—not fresh or life-giving. The multiplication of such brings sickness of heart, and is not to His glory whatsoever. Still, even Pharaoh who had hardness in his heart—God used his offering to display the hand of God in delivering His people out of an impossible situation.
Always, it is for God’s glory that our heart endures—that it is not of our own might or strength or power. Proverbs 4:23 gives us a warning “Above everything else guard your heart, because from it flow the springs of life.” (ISV)
Read the rest over here at OneWord365.com

~Tammy

A Perfect Zero

I love to do math. I've always enjoyed the simple, predictable comfort I have found in numbers. The answers never change. Again and again, I can control the outcome if I place the same numbers in the same equation.

How frustrating life becomes, when people are not predictable like numbers.

For me, a recent revelation occurred where I realized that I'd all along thought that God was like people. God is not. He is predictable and consistent, never changing. This is not to mean that I can predict what God will do, but that His character is laid out in the Bible.

1 John 4:18 "Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love." (NLT)

My life has been spent trying to please God. Trying to perform well so that I will remain in His favor, and worried that He will be angry if I fail. When I read the above words in New Living Translation, it was so clear. My efforts? A perfect zero.

Whether I try to add my efforts to God's love to gain more of it, or whether I fail and fear that my efforts will take away from His love for me, the truth is, that my efforts are a whopping zero!

All my failures and sins, multiplied by the value of my efforts? Deeds x zero = zero
All my good deeds, divided by the value of my efforts? Deeds / zero = zero

Christ died for us while we were still sinners, and all sin has been accounted for. The balance is paid and we have a zero account.

Let us then live a life worthy of our calling, penitent for our missteps but not pining over our poor performances. God has so much more for us. We say we're sorry and then we step forward, victorious! Just as you and I delight and praise young children for taking their first steps rather than expressing dismay at their stumbling and falling, God delights in our efforts toward His glorification!

Deuteronomy 31:6 "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” (NIV)

God's love for you is perfect and unchanging, and there is nothing you can do to separate yourself from His love (Romans 8:28-38)

Filled with joy,
~Tammy  

Choosing Joy in Challenging Times

When you tell people that your word for the year is "Joy", you may receive some similar reactions. Some people then expect you to don pink glasses, dance, twirl, and sing like Glinda from "The Wizard of Oz" and her little Munchkins, "Fa la la la la, la la la, la la la."

Some people may roll their eyes and scoff at your naivete'. "Surely you don't think it is possible to be happy all the time?" Some people may impose their negative circumstance upon you. "Jolly good for you, you aren't facing *insert challenge* like I am." And, some people will have a response of life-giving proportion. Perhaps they have already found joy themselves. They will smile, affirm your choice, perhaps give you a motivational post on your facebook page or tag you in an Instagram photo.

The verse that first prompted me to consider "Joy" for the year spoke of considering joy.

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4 (NIV)

Just yesterday, I had an amazing dream. I was bold, courageous, not afraid to fight and defend on behalf of others! Spiritually in the dream, I was battling the dark shadow people and completely confident that the Lord was with me! I awoke charged up, ready to go, saw some amazing things, heard amazing praises, it was a high!
Last night I don't remember dreaming. I don't know why I awoke at 3:30am, nor why I stayed awake until 4:30am.

Today, joy was a choice. I had a challenge in the afternoon, one I knew was coming, but was not looking forward to. It was necessary, it would be good for me, good for the other person directly involved, but still, it would be difficult, painful, and would be draining emotionally, mentally, physically, socially and spiritually.
I knew my situation needed to progress. It was time. We had to face the giant, knowing we could defeat it. 
Still, joy was not my first thought today.
Did I want to face this challenge?
No.
I wanted the Jonah option. Next ticket to Tarsus, please!

Now that it's done, progress has been made, I am trying to focus on the joy that is mine to have. Something happened. We had breakthrough. This has been a process over four years in the making. Last year, I chose "Trust". I wanted to trust God fully. Somehow, in all the turmoil that came, the brokenness that had to happen, He helped me lose that trust in myself and find my trust in Him.

I anticipate that this year is going to bring harder challenges, but it's because I'm deeply rooted in Him (Colossians 2:7) and it will only bring us closer together. 

https://dwellingintheword.files.wordpress.com/2012/02/colossians2_7-roots.png

Truly, is that not joy? That my heart would be closer to my God, and my journey home would be that much closer to its blessed reunion?! I want to be refined, matured, to let go of the need for affirmation and to instead be full of rejoicing in hearts reached for Him. For His kingdom to advance, we must be prepared to let Him work in us and through us. That takes a lot, but He promises we will not lack anything when perseverance has finished its work!

I encourage you to draw close to Him. He is speaking to me through the prophets this year. Isaiah, Joel, Habbakuk, Zephaniah, Ezekiel, all their voices are being brought to life again! His Word was in the beginning and is still alive and speaking.
Choose to find the joy. It is there if you are looking for it. Joy is a reward. A reminder that we are being used for His glory, and the Holiness of God passing through us refines us in the passing!

May His praises be ever on my lips. (Psalm 34:1)
~Tammy

http://tammysincerity.blogspot.com

End of the Year and what Trust has brought about...

I cannot help but sit in reflection these last few days and wonder at how God could do so much in such a short time.

When choosing the word "trust" for my oneword365, I had no idea how much writing I would get to do. Most of it, truly, was not on my personal blog, and I didn't really want to link those "click here to read more" posts if I could avoid it. There was a lot going on in my head, heart, and in my life.

2014 was a year where God really had some breaking to do. Breaking down my own strength, my own abilities, until I was a broken mess. And then? Then the beauty could come from the ashes!
A verse I've memorized this fall is Ephesians 6:10. "Finally, be strong in the Lord, and in His mighty power."

I was honored to be a member of the BraveGirl Community. I frequently submitted my writing there this year. If you haven't yet visited, it's been a blessing to be with those amazing women!

There have been some major control issues I've had to work through. Namely, the fact that I am not in control of my children, any more than my own parents are in control of me. All of us have individual personalities and free will, and the job of a parent is to guide their children to a self-controlled life. We provide consequences (both positive and negative) for their actions, but they must make choices every day. If we choose for them too often, they become dependent on us.

That being said, when my child is out of control, it's embarrassing, shameful, and I feel the judgment of many around me (especially non-parents, or people who don't remember any disobedient veins in their own children).

This year brought great pain in the form of lives taken. Some were old lives, well-lived, and we were thankful for their release, others were a shock and I still grieve.

This year brought great depth in my relationship with God. In September, I began to teach chapel to our preschool, kindergarten, and elementary students at our private school. I had the idea to have a jungle theme, and then relate the armor of God to them in jungle format.

Wow. All the ideas from God to explain and simplify caused new understanding in my own life. Suddenly, the Bible has opened up in new ways that I have never known before! Verses have flooded my news feed on Facebook thanks to YouVersion, and many have been timely. Also, speakers like Lysa Terkeurst and Christine Caine and musician Bekah Shae have been sharing verses that have edified me.
I've been able to commit verses to memory. They've been short and sweet and the references uncomplicated. Passages have opened up like never before.

I was able to attend a conference in Portland, "Women of Faith", which helped me to lose a burden of heaviness and apathy and come back with new vigor. The theme was "from survival to revival".
Very fitting for what is to come.

So, as I close this chapter of oneword365 and approach my next year, my word has been easier to choose. That word is Joy. I am going to choose Joy in every circumstance.

Christine Caine's book, "Unstoppable" has been a motivator in this word choice. The next year brings me great hope and anticipation, but I know that in some ways, I am anticipating a much more challenging year than this year was. The challenges will be difficult, but liveable, and will prepare me for the next step in this life, this journey.
We often ask our girls, "are you bringing joy to your sisters?" "to others?"
In my daily life, I will be conscious of trying to bring joy to those around me.
And, I must consider it joy whenever I face trials of many kinds. (James 1:2-4)
This is going to bring me to maturity.

So much more to write, but I will save it for my next blog. :)
Thanks for joining me this year!
~Tammy

Month Eleven, still Trusting

Honestly, though I have been journeying faithfully this year, trying to keep up a separate blog has been more work than I could commit to.
You can read the following post which has everything to do with trust and my journey this year down below at tammysincerity. :)

http://tammysincerity.blogspot.com/2014/11/the-eleventh-houror-month.html

Disappointment

Today wasn't the best day I've ever had.
It wasn't the worst day I've ever had, either.
I have a lot to be thankful for, really, but today was a two of ten on the happy scale. It was just a blue day.
Are there physical and natural and environmental factors at work? I am certain there are because if not, I'm going to be a very unpleasant person to be around if I continue to be this irritable on a daily basis.

By cjohnson7 from Rochester, Minnesota (Flickr) [CC-BY-2.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0)], via Wikimedia Commons

Still, there is a responsibility at some point that you have to take over your behavior. Regardless of circumstance, you are not allowed to put your misery upon others, however justified you feel.


This has been a week of let-downs. I promise not to be an Eeyore for the entire post, so hang in there. I just need to help you know how far down I had to go before I acknowledged the need to leave the "downs". It puts the "ups" in perspective.

Sometimes disappointments happen. And it's not the fault of anyone. For my four year old, it's an unacceptable truth that she simply cannot cope with. For two and a half years we've been walking through unmet expectations and how to deal with them. The road has become a lot smoother after all this work, but there are some serious potholes in the road and we don't often see them in time to avoid them.

Don't we all struggle with unmet expectations, though? You get your hopes up, you put your hope in that upcoming event or situation or financial promise, and when or if your expectation is not met (either in part or in whole), there is an emotional mess that must be dealt with!

Nobody really likes messes, but some of us handle them with less grace than others. I have mess aversion so my poor four year old is trying to learn to cope from a mom that is still learning to cope.

Yes, that sweet circled face is my own. I would have captioned the photo "It's MY camera" at the time.

When the disappointment occurs, we want an out. Somebody to blame would make me feel better. If I could direct all my frustration at an object or a person, and I could expel it, certainly I'd feel better, right?
Wrong.
When we take that mess and put it on anybody else except the one who already took all the messes and washed them clean with His blood, the mess spreads and leaves stains. Instead of ridding ourselves of the ugly, we've spread the ugliness and now it's on both of us.
Sometimes we feel so yucky after an outburst that was unfairly directed as a way of coping. I was there this morning for a time. Impatience seems to breed impatience in our home. (Remember that the mom is still learning?)
Though today has been difficult and I've felt down and irritable all day, longing for family (who live between 100 to 400 miles away at the closest), friends (who I missed seeing this week on three different days due to multiple factors), or even another adult instead of my adorable children, the fact remains that I am the adult. I have to choose.

I'll say it again. It is a choice.

I get to choose my attitude. Nobody else can force me to have a good or even a great attitude. They might really hope I'll have one, but I have to choose it.

Here are some thoughts from Ephesians 4:22-24 (NIV)
You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires;  to be made new in the attitude of your minds;  and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.

It's work, it's hard, and when you're in the middle of your mess, sometimes you just don't feel like it.
I think this is what's beautiful about God, about His Holy Spirit in our hearts! In spite of our grumpy selves, He reaches out in love and welcomes us back home. Our stinky pig-pen selves returning, covered in filth like the Prodigal Son, and still He races to hold us!

So, once embraced in His arms, His love, eyes turned toward the Creator of all, the disappointments gradually fade. Perspective can help the pain seem less sharp and eventually fade away.

Have you been dealing with disappointment lately?
Has the dark, dreary winter been adding to the difficulty of dealing with things on your own?
(Have you understood why it's so hard if you're trying from your own strength like I do?)

Beautiful Feet

If you have kept up with me, this is my one word 365 blog. I didn't really want to take on the responsibility of another blog, and this January I became a part of The Brave Girl Community.

So, I will actually just post excerpts here from time to time of the brave girl posts I'm writing and then list a link for you to jump over and read the rest. :)

Trust is definitely being developed within me and the Holy Spirit is becoming a more and more familiar strength and friend.

Here's the post in its entirety: http://bravegirlcommunity.com/2014/08/21/beautiful-are-the-feet/ ‎

And, if you want to read a piece before committing to another link, here you go:

I have two very good feet. I was born with all ten toes. I have been able to walk without problems for the duration of my 30 plus years here on Earth.
So why don't I like my feet?
My toes are a mix of my Dad's toes and my Mom's toes. I could point out to you that my first large toe and last two toes are all the same as his, but that my second and third are exact copies of my mother's toes.
I don't really dislike my toes, but they do make it difficult to purchase shoes that are not "open-toed" as their lengths are not uniform or standard for today's fashion.
And this, perhaps is where the dislike begins. Today's fashion. Marketing professionals are great at what they do. They find feet that they deem "flawless", "perfect", "the standard of beauty", and then they photograph them. If the photograph isn't just right, they will alter it to "put their best foot forward."
(sorry, I couldn't resist)
Along with the perfect toenails, which are not flat to the foot but have a slight roundness to the base, the toes are all lined up just like rows in a neatly planted garden. Not one is crooked, not one is too long compared to its sister. These toes often have a nice manicure and perhaps a coat of lovely lacquer as well.

In junior high I began to have communal shower/locker room exposure. My feet also were exposed to that environment and I began to have imperfections on my skin. My perfect feet now had times of peeling which were treated and cured until it came back.
By high school I began to dislike my feet even more. Instead of pretty, smooth skin that resembled my palms, I had rough white layers on the balls of my feet and on the outsides. I was very active, and that is a natural result of all the time spent on my feet, hiking, playing sand volleyball, indoor volleyball, working fast food, etc.
As an adult I visited a podiatrist, who wasn't concerned when he saw my feet, just told me to sand them. "You can even use a dremel on them."
Within the last few years, I've jammed both my big toes and damaged the nail beds and I've kind of given up hope that I'll ever even have toenails that cover my entire toe again.
When I met my now-husband, and we were dating, he one time wanted to give me a foot rub with some lotion. I resisted. I could not understand why he would want to touch my feet. I would often say, "God put my feet as far away from my eyes as possible as He knew it was the body part I liked the least."
That's pretty cruel to say. And, I believe it's disrespectful to myself AND to the one who made me!

No longer friendless

Here's an excerpt from my latest post of what God has been teaching me.
You can read the full article at: http://bravegirlcommunity.com//2014/08/12/friendless-no-more/

"I remember still the day they came by when our second born was about to have a birthday. They were going to move out of town for a new job, and he had gone ahead of her and the children. We were still supposed to have a month together, but just like that, she was leaving town! It felt like a piece of me left town with her. I was so pained and depressed. How often do you have a friend that is perfect for you whose children are so close in age to your own? I had other friends whose kids were off-set by a year with my own or whose youngest matched the age of my oldest. They played together, but it wasn’t easy for me with the moms as we weren’t exactly at the same points in life.
I’ve had some great friendships since then, but it seems to be a pattern for me. I’ll get really close to a friend, and then, right when I’m appreciating the depth of the friendship and the trust we’ve built, she has to move away...
Does this mean I should not invest ever again in a deep relationship? Though my short-term dark-mood pity-party self might want to say “yes,” Jesus is reminding me of something else.
I’m not the only person to want or need a deep friendship. His Holy Spirit is going to meet my deepest needs, but He knows I need fellowship.

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.“ (Hebrews 10:24-25 NIV)

Trusting A Stranger

Today while in my kitchen, I looked out the window and noticed our mammoth cat, Bubba. He was on top of the netting on our strawberry plants. I'm not kidding, he weighs over 18 pounds and is only 2 years old. He looks like a gray lynx (he's part Mainecoon).

I was also hearing a lot of noise from neighborhood birds, which is uncommon in the afternoon. They prefer late evening or early morning.

Once I got out there, I realized that there was a robin stuck in the netting and Bubba was very interested in this hard-to-get "treat".

An American robin. Mine looked very much like this one.

At first, I tried to assess whether the bird was actually stuck or just trapped under the netting. I was trying to avoid touching it as I knew it was scared and I didn't want to get pecked. It was lying so still I thought perhaps it was playing dead. It then panicked and tried to escape, but I realized it was in pain from Bubba stepping on the netting and trying to get underneath.

I shooed him away and placed one hand on the bird, speaking in a soothing tone and shushing it much like I did for my children when they were babies. To my amazement, it became completely calm. I held it gently but firmly to the ground while I pulled the netting away from its wings and feet, but it was soon evident that this determined bird had put its head completely through the mesh square and I'd need to cut it free.

I asked one of my three girls to go inside and fetch me the kitchen scissors. Once she came out, I clipped the netting until it was free, but before I could actually remove the square from its head, it flew away from me. I was trying to pull the tiny square off its neck rather than cutting so close, but the bird could sense the net was no longer holding on. First it flew to our roof, and sat for a while just looking at us. It then turned and flew up high into our neighbor's maple tree.

There is something about making eye contact with a wild animal. And something truly amazing about getting to touch an animal that is not tame, but that is at peace with you. I don't recommend going out and trying to pet a cougar or anything, but this bird could sense that I was trying to help it and it was completely calm while I worked on freeing it.

My biggest concern was that Bubba had injured the bird, but based on its quick flight, I don't think the bird lost anything besides some calm and some downy undercoat feathers. I secured the netting better, and we've harvested some of those bright red berries, since clearly, they were ripe.

Genesis speaks of Adam and the animals in Eden. Revelation speaks of a new heaven and earth. I believe that there will be a trust between humans and animals in that new earth, and today, I had a glimpse of it.

It's a moment I don't think I'll forget.

~Tammy

This is Bubba. If I were a robin, I'd be scared too.

One day without God...

"Tammy, I have a challenge for you. Try pretending you're an atheist for a week. Just trying thinking about the world and going about things as if there is no God. Try and feel what it is like to be an atheist for a week. Recondition your thoughts and your thinking to just thinking, "well maybe there isn't a God". If there is a God, and your faith is strong, then this should be nothing but a walk in the park. But try it nonetheless."
I'm in conversations with some people I love, and we disagree on God and His existence and His role in our lives. The above challenge was issued to me. And, the more I think about it, I'm not sure I could do this even for a day.

What is funny, is the last line. "If there is a God, and your faith is strong, then this should be nothing but a walk in the park."

Because there is no question in my mind that God is real, and my faith in Him is so strong, this is a very difficult challenge to me. How can I spend an entire day not thinking about someone I'm in love with? By trying not to think about Him, I think about Him more. Every thought toward Him in my head is a conversation. I pray often for people as they come to mind. To try and cut that off, even for a day?
It's like telling somebody who has been in a long-distance relationship for 14 years to imagine life without your love for even a day. Well, maybe that person doesn't really exist. :)

What proof can we give for love to others, though? Something that is internal, that is not simply emotional, but the emotions are one of the proofs? I don't doubt His existence because I have experienced his Holy Spirit in answer to years of prayer. When you've encountered somebody, you no longer doubt their existence. They're real because you've met them.

This is not a scientific discussion, and for me, I am at a loss for words.

If my faith were weak, if God was just a convenient way for me to feel better about myself after I "make a mistake" and then I can go on with my life selfishly as before, then it would be much easier.
"Oh sure, God is just who I make Him to be and really I am the answer to all my problems."

I have been striving for the last year to remove myself from the throne in my heart and to allow God to take up His residence there. To submit to His authority. To relinquish control over my life, over the lives I'm entrusted to care for. And? I am stumbling often, but my heart is yearning for it to be a victory!

I completely trust God that He will do what He says He will do. He never breaks His word. So, this is one of the discussions that causes my loved ones to recoil. "How could a loving God allow..."
As a parent, I've had to carry out consequences and I was grieved. At times, we state consequences, hoping the child will be deterred by the magnitude. We try to teach impulse control at a young age to prevent larger destructive choices later. (drunk driving would be one)Sometimes my consequences have been rashly stated, much to my regret afterward. I am not saying God's consequences are rash, but I do see examples in the Old Testament of mediation intervening a complete destruction of mankind.
We appeal to His mercy, and once Jesus came, mercy was available to everyone, not just His chosen people.

So, I could pretend to do this for discussion's sake, but in my heart, I would still be conversing and aware and in love with He who made me to love Him. He won my heart and I could never go back now that I know Him.

Have you ever been challenged to do something in regard to your faith?
How did it play out?

~Tammy

Omission destroys trust...

To tell you the truth, keeping yet another blog is too much work for me. I'm regularly posting now on the Brave Girl Community website.

My post I wrote today actually deals well with trust and so I'll just hotlink it here so I don't have to re-post it for you.  "Independently Hurting" is the title.
In summation, if you are trusting in yourself, when you get into trouble you will harm your trust levels with those around you. I'm so thankful for a God who loves us and truly, if "In God We Trust", there will be so much freedom!

~Tammy

Not as easy as I thought...

For some reason, I thought this would be easy.
Pick a word, change your life, all for one easy payment of one year of your time.

It has not been easy.

When you invite God in to clean and rearrange, be prepared to see your house (heart) turned completely upside-down in a good and necessary way!

Oh boy, is He doing a good work and how I want to complain during some of it.
You see, His interior design isn't aligning with my color scheme. Or my furniture.
In fact, I'm starting to think that the only thing that He's going to leave alone is the foundation of the house (because it's His...built on His Word).

If you don't want me to re-type everything I'm thinking, follow my regular posts at tammysincerity.blogspot.com and there may be more frequent updates than on here.

Still, He is constantly doing something new. He is working on me regarding Expectations.

He is also working on my attitude and waking up depending on Him.
Psalm 90:14 (NIV) states: Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all our days.

If I am truly satisfied internally, I won't be using food, beverages, friends, family, or anything else to meet my emptiness. His love can satisfy me EVERY morning, and I will sing for joy and be glad ALL of my days!

Doesn't that sound wonderful?

As the year progresses, I hope to live out that promise. For now, I have days where I remember to ask, and days where I finish exhausted, and then I remember.

For those of you curious about the photos, the first is the original design of our 1959 house. Second is an "in progress" photo of our bathroom remodel in our house several years ago, and the above photo is the finished project.


~Tammy

Things are happening...

Wow. All you have to do is step out in faith and things start to happen!
Already this year, I'm praying more, getting up earlier, and hearing confirmation of the thoughts God's putting into my head from other people, devotionals, etc!

One exciting opportunity was to begin writing as a "regular contributor" on the new website, Brave Girl Community.
I started with my first entry on "trust"
Here's the link:
http://bravegirlcommunity.com/2014/01/05/trust/

And, those thoughts tied into the Unveiled Wife discussion on day 8 of "Wife After God" on a Facebook group event going through her amazing book of the same name.https://www.facebook.com/events/243715902461717/permalink/250351391798168/

"Realize that your spouse, your children, their performance will never fill you and your disappointment of unmet expectations will further your emptiness. Only God can fill the longings for acceptance that daily hit us like hunger pains!" - Tammy Belau

 Sunday, I even wrote a song (not a new experience for me, I've been writing songs for a while) and I've recorded it. It's not a polished recording as I just recorded it about an hour after writing it and hadn't memorized my own words and music yet. God has been teaching me that it's about Him.

To God be the glory. That's it. We're not humans as much as we're mini-me representations of the Almighty. "Made in His image."

Why do we exist? To bring Him glory. To lead others to know what peace is found in His presence when we are TRUSTING Him.

So, here's the rough link to the song. I'll stop apologizing. I don't mess up that badly, I'm just having to let go of my standard of perfection and start being real.
http://www.youtube.com/edit?o=U&video_id=x7nGKkq0spc
This song isn't about how great or not great Tammy performs it...it's about living for God's glory and doing things so He gets the credit!

~Tammy

One Word, One Year, Trust.

What if you chose to sum up your life's goal in one word? Would it demonstrate hope? Despair?
Where are you at right now?
What are you pursuing?
What is bringing you life?
What is bringing you down?

These were all thoughts I had as I considered the "oneword365" challenge.
I don't tweet, I'm not on twitter, I don't own an apple anything, so I'm only partially "with it" in the social media world. Eventually this will change as my family persuades me that "face time" is far superior to skype at the desktop. They did eventually bring me into their phone carrier though I was a holdout for a long time. (Who can beat a $39.95 grandfather plan with great local coverage and no dropped calls? Really?!)

So, as I thought on where I desire personal growth, I thought of my relationship with God. What would I ask of Him if I could only use one word? I would like to deepen my trust with Him.

It would be a long story to explain why I don't feel I trust Him fully. I don't understand His grace and though Grace would have been another good choice, I feel that Trust is where I desire to be. Like an adventurer about to scale a mighty peak, I am trembling with great anticipation and nervous energy. Trust will take me places and I'll not be the same come January 2015. That would be a noble goal.

~Tammy